I girl I met on line asked me out for Sunday brunch one day, when we got there we sat and talked for a bit before going into eat. She started to say things like, "You know im kind of tired, you are going to have to do most of the talking."
I should have said, "Umm, no sorry I feel like you are trying to manipulate me because you are to lazy to hold your part of the conversation, thats not the way thinks work for me, it was nice meeting you, goodbye."
Never again will I not speak exactly what is on my mind, so long as I can be firm, but gentle at the same time...
(if you react negatively to this, please ask yourself why this bothers you first, before responding) I get the idea (and I could be wrong) that girls want men to do most of the talking, and I just don't agree with that. You have to give me a reason to want to get to know you, and if the conversation is not flowing in both directions, its just not working. Accepting it, and move on.
I should have said, "Umm, no sorry I feel like you are trying to manipulate me because you are to lazy to hold your part of the conversation, thats not the way thinks work for me, it was nice meeting you, goodbye."
Never again will I not speak exactly what is on my mind, so long as I can be firm, but gentle at the same time...
(if you react negatively to this, please ask yourself why this bothers you first, before responding) I get the idea (and I could be wrong) that girls want men to do most of the talking, and I just don't agree with that. You have to give me a reason to want to get to know you, and if the conversation is not flowing in both directions, its just not working. Accepting it, and move on.
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Re: You know what? I think im done, it was nice meeting you goodbye.
Tue, February 20, 2007 - 5:35 AMI agree with you. I know a few people who will call and say "what's up?" then there is dead silence when you are done saying what is "up". Or, people who message you online with a "hi" and then have nothing to say. To that I say: ZZZZZzzzzzzz......
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Re: You know what? I think im done, it was nice meeting you goodbye.
Thu, February 22, 2007 - 12:33 PMWow, that sounds like a sucky date! I can totally relate to making plans in advance and then being really low energy due to some unforseen circumstance on the day of the event. But in that case I either reschedule, or at least take responsibility for my own exhaustion. Either way the only way to handle it gracefully is to apologize profusely, accept complete responsibility and try to make it up to the other person. I can't imagine trying to make someone else take over the conversation just because I'm having a lousy day.
The one good thing about bad dates is that you learn all of the things that you're not willing to put up with. Maybe you should have said, "I'll be happy to take responsibility for the conversation, but I'm leaving you with the responsibility of paying the check!" ;) -
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Re: You know what? I think im done, it was nice meeting you goodbye.
Thu, February 22, 2007 - 2:18 PMhahha awkward !
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