good GOD!!!!! that is frickin wrong - I want to soak in my revulsion, but I need more details - time of day, how shishi the restaurant, specifics on the selfabosrbedbitch - the SAB.... do tell

sounds like something my mother dearest has done too me. gee, moms are swell, aren't they?

Lets see, I would probably try to take the more compassionate approach, my ego can take over from time to time though :).

"Wow, I'm really sorry you have such low self esteem, that you feel like you need to be rude to me and everyone in my group, is their anything I can do to help?"

i can totally relate to your friend. my parents' neighbor has known me nearly all of my life. well, known of me. her only source of information is my mother, who can be difficult. at some point, this woman got hold of my email address, and then i realized how much of a hateful old crone she really is.

she doesn't know all of the facts, and is completely unfamiliar with the situation, but when i go home to visit, i stay with an aunt and uncle - NOT my parents. there's painful history there, and i have no intention of going back. plus, my mom is a chain smoker - she'll lit 'em and let 'em burn down, sometimes several at a time. after spending a couple of hours in her house, my eyes are red and burning, my lungs hurt and i can't breathe.

before my last trip home, this woman was kind enough to send an email going off on me about how she always wanted a daughter but now that she sees how i treat mom, she's glad she never had one 'cause i'm such a hateful, mean bitch and i hurt her so much and i should be so ashamed of myself and so on. then she launched into how mom wouldn't be there forever and some day i'd regret all this stuff and it'll be too late, and she's doing this for my own good. fact of the matter is, nothing mom told her has any basis in reality. i'm afraid, seriously, that mom is suffering from some form of dementia, 'cause her reality doesn't synch with the rest of us. but i look at it that this woman is mom's friend and ally and it's good that she cares for her.

actually, there may be an old post in my blog about another nasty-gram she sent. she does seem to have an uncanny knack of hitting me when i'm down. the first couple of times, i went off on her, but it just reinforced her opinion of me and made me tired. it's not worth it.

I dunno. Sounds like she's pretty much right in line with the topic of this tribe -Saying things she should have said at another earlier. Though I can't be sure of this, as I don't know how fast or unsafely guy X was driving, (or even if he was driving unsafely at all).